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  • The Philosophy of Hair

    I’ve been fascinated by (my) hair for years (probably my whole life tbh). I’ve always had very fine hair, I remember having a haircut when I lived in Bulgaria and being told “you have hair like a baby”.

    Yes, well, I was bald for the first 3 years of my life so I’ve got some catching up to do…

    HAIR: Keeping it on my head, styling it when it’s so fine and delicate, dealing with split ends and frizz, Hair has kind of been an ongoing big deal for me.

    My hair has changed over time too. In the 3 years I was a raw vegan it became curly and I had ringlets for the first time in my life. I was delighted to say the least. However I’ve also had on and off hair loss; at times so significant that I was gathering fistfuls of my own hair after each shower.

    In 2020 I discovered the world of Bioenergetics, the metabolism and the thyroid through Danny Roddy. I read his book “Hair Like A Fox” and it put words to my health and hair struggles in such a practical simplified way that I finally had some hope of being able to nourish my hair in a useful and transformative way.

    Maybe I could have a mane? Could I?

    Then in 2022 I discovered German New Medicine and understood my hair loss through another lens. Separation conflicts. The desire to get away from someone… And my hair journey made even more sense!

    As I explored nourishing myself better metabolically, and began to clear up the relationships in my life that were causing me stress (including the one with myself that allowed for all the inauthentic relationships in the first place) I began to grow out my hair.

    Yes it was still really fine and frizzy most days, yes I dealt with on and off hair loss though it was improving. I was hopeful and I had direction.

    My hair care experiments…


    For years I had experimented with all sorts of hair care things as I sought for the perfect holy grail of a natural substance that would cleanse my all too often “greased weasel” head of hair and give it shine and tame it and make it silky and happy and lush….. You know, all of the bougie things, but without needing silicones and alcohols for it.
    I tried the “no poo” method rather radically over a decade ago when I lived in Australia and was often in the ocean. The sea salt dried my hair out, making it brittle and prone to breaking but it did help me brush out some of the grease. I eventually gave it up because I got sick of being a dirty hippie (no it didn’t improve after over 6 months of no washing).


    Then I tried things like eggs. The emulsification of the egg yolk seemed to remove the oil somewhat but I would have bits of egg stuck through my hair and my hair would smell like raw eggs.
    Not a vibe.
    I continued to swing between high end products like Khiels fancy shampoos and ayrevedic shampoo powders, aloe vera, eggs, and one of the worst experiments which was the very simple Baking Soda followed by Apple Cider Vinegar rinse…
    That one dried my hair out to snapping point SO quickly..

    The happy ending

    Yes this story ends happily I type after just smoothing my fingers through my soft much thicker hair as it lays in its waves across my shoulders.

    A friend who’s hair I was very envious of started talking about this luxurious shampoo she’d been using…
    I listened very skeptically because it was a direct marketing brand and I had some serious scars when it comes to marketing nonsense like that. For some reason I like being shmoozled by complete strangers into buying things that they get a cut out of but for some reason I don’t want my friends to be getting that cut? Weird right? Anyway I quelled my horror and kept watching her parade her gorgeous locks around, sharing about what she was doing and eventually I felt clear enough in my emotional wave to go, |YES I want this and I still want it after months of consideration.”

    I reached out and began using the products. And I finally felt like an adult woman who could “do her hair” for the first time in my life. My friend was a 1st line (human design nerd speak for a very good investigator who gets the foundational details of a topic) and she’d looked into the products themselves and how gentle yet powerfully they worked on the scalp and hair strands. She became my hair expert and suggested begin with a range targeted for hard growth. The company has done their own researchninto the growth phases of the hair follicles and formulated products that shift stressed out follicles from dormant to growing…. My nerdy side LOVES how intentional and targeted the various ranges are. They’re actually like medicinal hair products.

    As I continued to use the products my hair began to feel like an actual mane. I watched it thicken, I shared the serum with two shiny balding scalps and watched them begin to regrow full thick hair follicles as well. It kind of felt like magic even though I knew it was just a clever use of biological knowledge.

    3rd Line Regression

    Being a 3rd line, (more human design nerd speak for a mad scientist who learns via trial and error, usually discovering what doesn’t work before discovering what does #askmehowIknowthis) when I moved back to New Zealand from the UK I couldn’t’ be bothered to change my account over at first so I decided to use this time to find that elusive one ingredient haircare regime (how the hell did thew girls off Pride and Prejudice have nice hair without shampoo??!? What do they know that we don’t?) Any way this was possibly my least favourite experience because it was such a contrast from the lush hair I’d seriously started taking for granted.
    I went the Baking Soda/ACV route, and the Ayerveda hair powder route, and the aloe vera and hair oil route and my hair turned to straw and started breaking off at a very sad pace.

    After an embarrassing amount of months of this self flagellation I decided to resign up and take my hair care seriously because lets be honest every girl deserves to feel like her hair is a reflection of who she is, not some straw tufts sticking out of her head unceremoniously.

    after a matter of weeks back on my bougie hair care (I’d taken before photos this time) my hair looked and felt like completely different hair. Soft, hydrated and lush. I even began to see my natural curls coming back into my hair. I’ve been doing my best too save the couple of inches at the ends from needing snipping but they became so damaged that they may have to go to allow my natural curls to unfold.

    Hair Philosophy

    Why are so many women and men mildly (or not so mildly) obsessed with their hair?

    My favourite story that illustrates how integral our hair is to our person and even spirit is about the Indian trackers used in the civil war in the USA. The native men naturally kept their hair long but when brought in to the military their heads were shaved…. And they proceeded to lose all their intuitive capacity. People could sneak up on them and they had no clue. Their instinctual natural appeared heavily intertwined with the hair on their heads.
    WILD

    Hair not only serves as an expressive medium with which to show how we are to the world, it is also an extension of our nervous system.

    It is also, as I learned from my time studying the metabolic world, an expression of how nourished you are as a man or woman.
    Animals don’t go bald, unless they’re domesticated, under stress, and unable to change their circumstances.
    How shiny, thick, long and lush our hair is tells a LOT about the state we’re in without more than a glance.

    I would argue that in this stressful ever changing world, yeah, it probably is a bit of a challenge to experience our hair at its best #askmehowIknowthis but it isn’t unattainable. And I believe this is why it can be useful to make the most of haircare that has been formulated with an understanding of the biology of the scalp and hair follicle and hair shaft etc, a respect for the modern stressors we face, and an high degree of excellence with the outcome of the haircare regime. (Meaning your hair isn’t just nourished and healthy, but it also is smoothed, soft, shiny and protected and supported in your desired styling of it.)

    I used to believe “just never using chemicals” or “just nourishing the metabolism” would be enough, or that “just resolving my conflicts” would be enough, and throughout my experiments I’ve discovered that the best bang for buck is respecting localised biology (hair and scalp) in the form of really nerdy hair care ALONG with taking good care of yourself is exactly what my hair needed.

    Have you struggled with your hair?
    Tell me your hair story in the comments I’d love to hear from you.

  • How to Use (and Misuse) Your Willpower: Living with a Defined Ego in Human Design

    In August, I had the honour of speaking with Griffin, a 2/4 Splenic Projector with a well-defined Ego centre, on The Seidrkin Podcast. We dove deep into both of our lived experience as Ego beings — and if you’ve ever wondered what it really means to live with a defined Ego in Human Design, this conversation is for you.

    🎧 Watch the full podcast on YouTube here
    🎧 Listen on Spotify here

    IS IT BAD HAVING AN EGO? WHAT IS THE EGO?



    What Is the Ego Centre in Human Design?

    In Human Design, the Ego (also known as the Heart or Will Centre) is one of the nine centres in the bodygraph. You’ll spot it as the small triangle on the chart.

    • If it’s white, your Ego is undefined.
    • If it’s coloured in, your Ego is defined.

    Around 63% of the population has an undefined Ego, and only 37% have a defined Ego.

    This centre governs both the biological heart muscle and themes of willpower, value, and self-worth.

    • An undefined Ego often wrestles with the not-self voice of “I need to prove my worth.”
    • A defined Ego carries consistent willpower and an intrinsic sense of worth (at least in theory).

    The Evil Ego

    Is the Ego Really “Bad”?

    In spiritual and self-development spaces, we often hear about the “ego” as something to overcome or transcend. But in Human Design, that advice can be misleading.

    Much of what people describe as the “bad ego” is actually the distortion of an undefined Ego trying to prove itself.

    If your Ego is defined, trying to transcend it is like trying to cut out a vital part of your own design. You may even succeed because you have access to willpower — but at what cost to your heart health, your vitality, and your sense of self?

    The Tribal Heart: Love and Resources

    During the podcast, Griffin and I spoke about the deeper essence of the Ego: a profoundly tribal energy rooted in love, devotion, and empowerment.

    This centre is about more than willpower or achievement. It’s about resources, provision, and proving oneself for the sake of our people. When Ego beings (and even undefined Egos) understand this, they can step into the true glory and purpose of this little centre.

    Tall Poppy Syndrome And Devotion To Playing Small

    In Australia and New Zealand, there’s a phrase: “tall poppy syndrome.” It describes the cultural pressure to cut yourself down to size so others don’t feel threatened by your success.

    I first heard about Ego distortion from another Splenic Projector with a defined Ego, Travis Day, who described it as being “devoted to being worthless” (my paraphrasing as I remember it). That struck me deeply.

    As someone who has lived with a defined Ego, I realised I had spent much of my life suppressing my own worth and power, trying to stay small so I wouldn’t stand out.

    Deconditioning gave me glimpses of the confidence and willpower that had always been available to me, but which I had often buried or misused.

    The Tyrannical Shadow Of A Defined Ego

    Here’s the shadow side: having access to consistent willpower without awareness can be more harmful than not having it at all.

    Personally, I used my willpower to bulldoze myself through extreme choices — three years of raw veganism, two years of carnivore, several years in a toxic relationship. I stuck with them not because they were healthy, but because I had the sheer will to see them through.

    The other shadow? Expecting others to live up to the same standard of determined grit.

    Griffin shared his frustration in the school system, struggling to understand why colleagues couldn’t simply show up on time or get things done the way he could. But here’s the truth: an undefined Ego isn’t designed to follow through the way a defined Ego can.

    When undefined Egos make commitments without aligning to their Strategy and Authority, it can lead to broken promises, burnout, and a wounded sense of self-worth.

    How to Work with Your Ego (Defined or Undefined)

    So, how do you avoid “poking yourself in the eye” with your own willpower?

    • If you have a defined Ego:
      • Notice when you’re bulldozing yourself or others.
      • Ask: Is this willpower in service to my people, my heart, and my health?
      • Honour your drive, but don’t weaponise it.
      • Most importantly if the Ego isn’t you inner authority, make sure it bends the knee to what IS your inner authority. This keeps the devotion healthy. In my case this means following my emotional process, in Griffins case it means obeying his spleen.
    • If you have an undefined Ego:
      • Release the pressure to prove yourself, you’re not here for that game.
      • Make commitments only when aligned with your Strategy and Authority.
      • Remember: your worth isn’t measured by promises kept or goals achieved.

    Final Thoughts

    The Ego centre is often misunderstood. It’s not the “enemy” of spiritual growth — it’s a source of heart, devotion, and empowerment when used with awareness.

    Whether your Ego is defined or undefined, the medicine is the same: honour your design, recognise your patterns, and let love (and your inner authority) — not distortion — guide your willpower.

    ✨ What’s your relationship with your Ego centre? Do you notice yourself trying to prove or to suppress your worth?

    Share in the comments — I’d love to hear your experience.

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  • How To Discover Who You Really Are (Through Human Design & Somatic Inquiry)

    Many of us spend years trying to “get life right” — only to end up exhausted, burned out, or feeling like we’re missing something essential. If you’ve ever wondered “Who am I really, and why does life feel harder for me than it does for everyone else?” — you’re in the right place.

    I use a unique blend of tools — Human Design, German New Medicine, Integrated Somatic Inquiry, and even Music — to help you reconnect with your true self and live from that place of authenticity.

    What Does “Seidrkin” Mean?

    The name Seidrkin comes from two words:

    • Seidr — the Norse women’s magic of divination, healing, and foretelling of futures.
    • Kin — the people of my fractal, my tribe.

    Together, Seidrkin represents “weaving healing fortunes for my people.”
    This is the essence of my work: bringing people back to who they are, and helping them live that truth.

    My Journey as a 3/5 Emotional Projector

    As a 3/5 Emotional Projector with a wide split definition, my life has been full of trial and error. I’ve tested, broken, rebuilt, and transmuted a LOT — the alchemy of turning lead into gold.

    Before Human Design, I thought there was something horribly wrong with me. My health was falling apart (I even ended up in the emergency department just after discovering Human Design). My marriage had collapsed, and my job barely covered the bills. I was at rock bottom.

    But rock bottom can be a blessing — because when you have nothing left to lose, you can finally take a leap of faith.

    How Human Design Changed My Life

    When I found Human Design, I realized I wasn’t broken. I just hadn’t been living according to my design.

    That doesn’t mean Human Design is a religion or something to worship. It’s not “the way, the truth, and the light.” But what it does give us is awareness. Awareness that puts choice and potential back into our hands.

    ✨Human Design is magic for self-discovery

    Human Design became a tool that helped me understand my unique energy and gave me permission to stop hurting myself with my best intentions.

    If you don’t know where to start, looking up your free Human Design chart can be a great place to begin. You can generate your free chart here at Jovian Archive.

    The Projector Path: Seeing Others, Learning to See Myself

    As a Projector in Human Design, I’m designed to see deeply into others — often with incredible clarity. Yet at the same time, I was a mess in my own life. The projector aura is not designed to focus in on ourselves, we struggle to see our own depths while we so easily see into those around us.

    This is the paradox of being a Projector. But it’s also the gift. Because once we learn to understand our mechanics, trust ourselves, and honor our energy, we stop forcing life — and begin to experience the signature of success.

    That’s what happened for me. I had to learn to:

    • Say no (even when it cost me relationships or opportunities).
    • Let things burn away that weren’t truly mine.
    • Trust that my alignment was enough to support me.

    It was painful — but it was also a deep return to my core.

    From Rock Bottom to Starting My Business

    As I began living in alignment, everything shifted.

    I went from not having the confidence to apply for a checkout job… to starting my own business. I began to love myself — not just the shiny parts, but the warts of not-self too.

    Authenticity became magnetic. Success came not from hustling but from being recognized for who I truly was.

    ✨ My authentic expression took the awareness of Human Design to truly come online

    Integrated Somatic Inquiry: Healing Through the Body

    Alongside Human Design, one of my favorite tools is Integrated Somatic Inquiry (ISI).

    ISI is where belief meets the physical body. We use our triggers as opportunities to realign with truth — shifting not just our thoughts, but our entire lived experience.
    Instead of symptom managing every negative thought we go to the root of the belief so that you can just enjoy being you instead of overthinking every thought pattern you have.

    I see ISI as a kind of matrix hack — a way to change our inner coding so we can move from suffering to ease. And I’ve watched it transform the lives of clients again and again.

    ✨ somatic inquiry is such incredible magic for healing the root cause.

    Join Me On The Journey

    I spend a lot of time connecting with my community on Instagram (@seidrkin.humandesign), and I share even more wisdom on my podcast (available on Spotify and YouTube).

    If you’d like to go deeper:

    You can also join my mailing list for monthly updates, podcast drops, and behind-the-scenes musings. I don’t spam (Projector energy doesn’t allow for that 😉).

    Final Words

    If you’re standing where I once stood — overwhelmed, disconnected, or doubting yourself — know this: you’re not broken.

    The tools I share aren’t here to fix you, but to help you remember who you really are. Because when you return to your true self, you discover that you already have everything you need to live, love, and thrive.

    ✨ With love from my 37-40.